According to the Quran, the purpose of marriage
is to attain sukun (tranquility and peace), which can never be achieved through
impulsive sexual fulfillment unless it is accompanied by mutual love,
affection, caring, and sharing, which are all part and parcel of a fulfilling
and productive marriage relationship. This was
further emphasized by one of the hadiths of the Holy Prophet, Muhammad bn
Abdullah (PBOH) "...marriage is half of faith..."
Islam, as we know it
holistically from the sources, is a balanced way of looking at things. Just like its meaning": Peace (from the word
Salam), it has laid down the best of ways as regards all our life affairs in
order to attain a peaceful existence.
Following are the 8 important factors that can in sha’ Allah strengthen a marriage relationship in Islam:
1. Good Attitude
A Muslim must always have a positive attitude
toward life. We say, “Alhamdulillah” (Praise be to Allah) for whatever He gives
us (or doesn’t give us).
Our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)
stressed the importance of men helping their wives and Allah tells us the
importance of women being mates and helpers to their husbands. This is a real
“win-win” situation, if we just follow it.
men and women are ordered to be trustworthy and follow the example of our
prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) as the “Trustworthy”.
You get respect, when you give respect. This is
mandatory for all Muslims toward all people, how much more toward the spouse?
Our prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)
used to entertain his wife Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) and she used
to play and race with him. She said, “I used to out-run him, but then when I
got heavy he used to outrun me”. He told us to play with our wives and have
Clearly, this is one of the most important
aspects of Islam. Whoever does not forgive – will not be forgiven. This comes
from Allah, Himself. We must learn to forgive each others for a good
Spend time together. Go for walks. Take a bus
ride. Visit a friend or someone who is ill (you get big rewards for that). Fast
together on Mondays & Thursdays if you can. Make hajj – this is a great way
to get a “new start” on life.
Our prophet (peace and blessings be upon him),
used to lead his wife in salah, even though he lived connected to the mosque.
He told us not to make our homes like grave yards. We should offer some of our
sunnah prayers at home.
with slight modifications from: www.orbitislam.com
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