According to the Quran, the purpose of marriage is to attain tranquility and peace, which can never be achieved through impulsive sexual fulfillment unless it is accompanied by mutual love, affection, caring, and sharing, which are all part and parcel of a fulfilling and productive marriage relationship.
Islam, as we know it holistically from the sources, is a balanced way of looking at things. It is a complete way of life.
Following are 8 important factors that can In Sha Allah strengthen a marriage relationship in Islam:
1. Good Attitude
A Muslim must always have a positive attitude towards life. We say, “Alhamdulillah” (Praise be to Allah) for whatever He gives us (or doesn’t give us).
Our Prophet (SAW) stressed the importance of men helping their wives and Allah tells us the importance of women being mates and helpers to their husbands. This is a real “win-win” situation, if we just follow it.
Muslims, men and women are ordered to be trustworthy and follow the example of our prophet (SAW) as the “Trustworthy”.
You get respect, when you give respect. This is mandatory for all Muslims toward all people, how much more toward the spouse.
Our prophet (peace be upon him) used to entertain his wife Ahysha (peace be upon her) and she used to play and race with him. She said, “I used to out-run him, but then when I got heavy he used to outrun me”. He told us to play with our wives and have some fun.
Clearly, this is one of the most important aspects of Islam. Whoever does not forgive – will not be forgiven. This comes from Allah, Himself. We must learn to forgive each others for a good relationship.
Spend time together. Go for walks. Go visiting family and friends together, cultivate the habit of checking your kids together who might be away from home or probably just away from home for one reason or the other. Visit a friend or someone who is ill (you get big rewards for that). Fast together on Mondays and Thursdays if you can. Make hajj together if Almighty Allah blesses you with the means– this is a great way to get a “new start” on life.
Our Prophet (SAW) used to lead his wife in salat, even though his living was connected to the mosque. He told us not to make our homes a graveyard. We should offer some of our Sunnah prayers at home.
Never forget this important point… Always pray for your spouse just as much as you pray for yourself because “The comfort of the tree is the comfort of the bird” Yoruba Proverb.