Breaking Ties Of Kinship

Alhamdulilah. Indeed, all praise is due to Allaah. We praise Him and seek His help and forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allaah from our souls’ evil and our wrong doings. He whom Allaah guides, no one can misguide; and he whom He misguides, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no (true) God except Allaah – alone without a partner, and I bear witness that Muhammad (peace be upon him) is His ‘Abd (servant) and messenger A. Some Consequences Of The Breaking Ties With Relatives: 1. Will Not Be Forgiven It was narrated from Aboo Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) said, “The gates of Paradise are opened on Mondays and Thursdays, and every slave (of Allaah) who does not associate any partners with Allaah is forgiven, except a man between whom and his brother there is some grudge. It is said, ‘Wait for these two until they reconcile, wait for these two until they reconcile, wait for these two until they reconcile.’”[1]<br%3e 2. Deprived from Allaah’s Help and Mercy ‘Abdur – Rahmaan bin ‘Awf (may Allaah be pleased with him) narrated that the Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) said, “Allaah, Most High, said: ‘I am Ar – Rahmaan, and this is Ar – Rahim (the womb, or the bonds of kinship). I have extracted for it a name from My Names. I will bond with those who nurture it, and break away from those who severe it.”[2] Haafiz Aboo Taahir Zubayr ‘Alee Za’i classed this Hadeeth as Saheeh and said, “Allaah will deprive His closeness and mercy from anyone who severs relations from his kith and kin and tramples their rights. Sadly enough, we see everywhere that Muslims, by and large, are systematically neglecting their Prophet’s (peace be upon him) teachings pertaining to their obligations towards close relations.” 3. Will Not Enter Paradise It was reported from Muhammad bin Jubair bin Mut’im, from his father, conveying that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “One who cuts off the ties of kinship will not enter Paradise.”[3] Haafiz Aboo Taahir Zubayr ‘Alee Za’i classed this Hadeeth as Saheeh and said, “Severing the ties of womb (kinship) is such a grievous wrong that taken singly, it has the potential to deprive a person of the right to enter Paradise. However, if there are other extenuating circumstances, such as good number of meritorious deeds to compensate for this sin, conditions might change for the person concerned.” 4. Cursed By Allaah It was narrated from Aboo Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him): The Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) said, “Allaah created the creation, and when He finished, Ar – Rahm (the womb; kinship) stood up and said, ‘I seek refuge from those who serve the ties of kith and kin.’ Allaah said, ‘Yes, would it please you if I were to take care of those who take care of you and cut off those who cut you off?’ It said, ‘Of course’. Allaah said, ‘Then your prayer is granted.’” Then the Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) said, “Recite, if you wish, ‘Would you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land, and sever your ties of kinship? Such are they whom Allaah has cursed, so that He has made them deaf and blinded their sight. Do they not then think deeply in the Qur’aan, or are their hearts locked up (from understanding it)?’[4]”[5] B. How To Deal With Hurtful Relatives It was narrated from Aboo Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that a man said, “O Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him), I have relatives whom I try to keep in touch, but they cut me off. I treat them well, but they abuse me. I am patient and kind towards them, but they insult me.” He (peace be upon him) said, “If you are as you say, then it is as if you are putting hot ashes in their mouths. Allaah will continue to support you as long as you continue to do that.”[6] And It is Only Allaah Who grants success. May Allaah Exalt the mention of His slave and Messenger Muhammad (peace be upon him), and render him, his household and companion safe from Evil.

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