reason is very clear. People like Kanwar are convinced that Islam
condones wife beating. I never believed that my religion allows me to
beat-up wife. Therefore, more than 22 years ago I married a woman and I
am still happily married to the same woman only. I am sure those who
beat up wives must have different experience. One of the major reasons
of failed marriages is the abuse by the spouse.
column did not do any good except for providing more opportunities to
those who do not want to build bridges among different communities of
Canada. Kanwar’s column has also shown the level of knowledge he has
about Qur’an and Islam.
have written many times that each and every verse of the holy Qur’an
has a context and that, in most cases, the context is outside the
Qur’an. Taking a literal translation of the verses to try to make a
point only shows one’s ignorance. In my Christmas Fund column (Calgary
Herald, Dec 22, 2010), I wrote that some Muslims do interpret the verses
of Qur’an as Kanwar did. They end up beating their wives and face
translation of the Qur’anic verse (4:34) Kanwar provided in his column
is not only wrong but he has even added several sentences of his own. I
was shocked to see that he tried to
quote verse 4:62 which is completely related to a different topic. His
translation of verse 4:62 is completely absurd. It’s not a Qur’anic
verse at all. This shows a clear intention of bias and misguidance. I
have read eight different translations of Qur’an, but I did not find
Kanwar’s translation in any of them. Is he qualified to translate
Arabic verses? A correct translation would be as follows.
are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given
the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them
from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly loyal, and
guard in (the husband´s) absence what Allah would have them guard
(private parts). As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and
ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds,
(And last) hit them (with tooth brush); but if they return to loyalty,
seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High,
great (above you all) (4: 34).
verse refers to a situation when a married woman develops sexual
relationships outside marriage. It is a reminder to such women that your
husband has been loyal to you. He is the bread earner and maintainer of
the family. In spite of all his hard work and loyalty why should the
wife not be faithful to her husband?
quote this verse and two other verses from Qur’an to prove the
superiority of man. In fact, there is no superiority of anyone over
another based upon gender. In Islam, superiority of a person is based
this verse, what Allah has described are the higher responsibilities of
a man. A man is responsible to earn, to pay the bills and take care of
the family. Although women are allowed to work in Islam, it is mainly a
responsibility of the husband.
there is no gender-based superiority in Islam. In fact, the
relationship between a husband and wife is based upon mutual love,
respect and care: “They (wives) are your garments. And ye are their
garments.” (Qur’an 2:187)
“strike them with tooth brush”, it is an extreme situation. If a
married woman establishes intimate relationship with another man, in
that extreme case Allah is asking her husband to educate her first.
she does not listen and continues having intimate relationship outside
marriage, then separate your bed with her. And if she still continues,
then express your frustration in a symbolic fashion by touching her with
is no killing or beating to cause pain and bruises to a wife, even in
an extreme situation. Some scholars disagree with the translation of
Arabic word “Fadhreboo hunnah” as “strike” or “hit” or “beat”. They have
also translated this word as “separate them”. It means divorce them as a
violence is a huge problem in Canada. It is not, specifically, a Muslim
problem. It is a human problem. Even a person who is not a Muslim, or
does not believe in any religion, will not tolerate his wife having a
sexual relationship with another man. In this extreme situation Qur’an
is asking man to educate wife first. Tell her that this conduct is
wrong. If she still does not listen, do not sleep in her bed. And if
she still insists on maintaining a sexual relationship with another man,
then express your anger by hitting her with “miswak” (a tooth brush).
of the most important requirements of Islam is to save marriage.
Therefore, when an adulterous relationship occurs, Islam does not
encourage the husband to beat his wife or divorce her immediately.
Rather, Qur’an says try to educate her, then peacefully protest and
finally express your frustration in a symbolic manner. No beating as
Kanwar understood it.
Qur’an does recognize gender equality. The idea of superiority is based on honesty / piety only.
Mankind, We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female and
made you into nations and tribes, that you may know each other. Verily
the most honored of you in the sight of Allah is he who is the most
righteous of you” (Quran 49:13).
Shari’a that Kanwar described in his column is not Shari’a. Just like
terrorists who quote verses of Qur’an to kill people, there are fanatics
who cause injustice and cruelty in the community by misinterpreting the
verses of Qur’an and calling it Shari’a. I have studied and taught
Islamic jurisprudence in Pakistan. What is Kanwar’s qualification in
Islamic Shari’a? What does he really know about Islamic laws?
invited Kanwar for a dialogue on the same topic. He has not only
refused, but even started a campaign of my character assassination. If
he has knowledge of Islamic Shari’a why doesn’t he debate with me?
the cases Kanwar quoted in his column were decided by a clergyman, why
is this a surprise? Didn’t the pastors and evangelists of KKK and white
Supremacists do the same thing in the name of Christianity? Who calls
In Islam it is Haraam (forbidden) for a man to hurt his wife even if she is involved in activities that go against Islam.
Islam requires from its followers is to inform people about the
teachings of Qur’an and Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). No family
member (including parents, husbands, brothers, etc.) is allowed to hurt
any family member for committing sins. They are required to educate and
inform, without violence or force.
Islam, no apparent obedience of Allah is acceptable to Allah unless the
person does it with his or her heart. Therefore, beating or abusing a
family member in order to force them to follow Islam is not acceptable
to Allah. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “help the oppressed
and the oppressor”. People asked Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him):
We understand how to help the oppressed, but how should we help the
oppressor? He replied, “by stopping him from the oppression”.
Islam, if a person commits illegal or illegitimate actions an
institution with authority such as the police, courts or government can
punish the person – not family members or other people. Honour killing
is a major sin in Islam. Those who commit honour killings they should
face the justice in this world and they will face Allah’s justice soon
short, Islam considers misogyny, racism, discrimination, and gender
superiority OR superiority based upon colour of skin, language,
ethnicity or nationality wrong and sinful. Domestic violence is very
un-Islamic practice and honour killings is a major crime in Islam. In
his last Sermon our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said,
People! just as you regard this month, this day ,this city as sacred
,so regard the life and property of every Muslim a sacred trust. Return
the goods entrusted to you to their rightful owners. Hurt no one so that
no one may hurt you. Remember that you will indeed meet your Lord, and
that he will indeed reckon your deeds.”
People it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your
women but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken
them as your wives only under Allah’s trust and with His permission. If
they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and
clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for
they are your partners and committed helpers.”