What Marriage Really Means in Islam

Marriage is half your Deen 1. It means you love unconditionally for the sake of Allah. It means you take responsibility for another human being’s well being and happiness. Naturally you expect the same treatment, but you do not demand it. 2. It means that you give your spouse the best of “you”: your best smile, your best attitude, your best cooking, and the best of your emotional energy; they have nowhere else to go. 3. It means that you both honour your marriage vows as just that, not just a fad, the thing to do because you fell in love; or the thing to throw away when times get tough. 4. It means realizing that you are not going to agree with your spouse, on everything, at every point in time. There are many minor points that you may never agree on. “Irreconcilable differences” are a part of marriage. 5. It means not thinking that you know all about marriage, simply because you are married. Therefore learn everything; you can, from the Quran, Hadith, other useful books, classes, conferences and mentors. 6. It means doing your best to make a life of peace for your spouse. 7. It means being a united front with your spouse. Marriage is about meeting of the minds, being on the same page, the same wavelength. You have to be equally yoked. 8. It means realizing that you are a reflection of each other and all of a sudden, you need to realize that what you do impacts your spouse. You are the husband of x; you are the wife of y. 9. It means you are in all challenges together, it also means you are in bliss together. Sometimes the challenges come before the bliss. You should be one regardless. 10. It means that, in the beginning romance drives your love; and later, love drives romance. “Among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, in order to have tranquility with them and He put love and mercy between your (hearts) : verily in that are signs for those who reflect.”[Surah Ar-Rum 30:21] “The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman.”[Sahih Muslim Book 008, Hadith Number 3465]

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